This is a message for you and her.
Your rules aren’t the only rules.
The major forces acting in any relationship are:
1) the universe (laws of nature, laws of attraction)
2) your particular goals and expectations
3) her particular goals and expectations
To you, the guy, I say this:
Honor #1
Fight like hell for #2
Support #3 if it doesn’t conflict with #1 or #2, and she’s making you a better man. But if they do conflict, don’t compromise. You gain nothing.
To her, the woman, I say this:
You want to be in a relationship with me? Then you’re going to make me a better man. It’s that simple. You demand that I compromise myself for you? Fuck you. Take your new age bullshit and feed it to some other guy. I don’t have time for it.
Now I’m not saying you haul off in anger at every little quibble. You’re a guy, you can deal with a little misbehavior. I’m talking about game changing stuff and patterns of action.
